“One of the greatest mistakes you can make in a relationship is to confuse a real person with the image you’ve created in your mind” ─ Anonymous
As little girls, we always dreamt of marrying our Prince Charming and living happily ever after.
As we grew up, we learned that it’s only a myth. Yet, as adults, we are still determined to either find one or create our own Prince Charming.
Prince Charming is a fantasy because there is no such thing as “the perfect guy”. In fact, putting unrealistic expectations on our partners causes tension and frustrations and can have dire consequences on our love relationships.
Misunderstandings and frequent conflicts are one of the main causes of break-ups. Unrealistic beliefs and expectations can be avoided if we just know how.
Here are 6 common mistakes women make and how you can avoid them:
Mistake #1: Believing that it’s your partner’s job to make you happy You expect him to romance and pamper you, and fulfill all your wishes. In reality, you are just as responsible for your happiness as he is. Find out what makes you happy from within. Take up some feminine practices and discover your interests, purpose and live your life with that passion.
Mistake #2: Expecting your partner to read your mind as to what you want Communicate clearly what you want from him and when. Since men generally engage with their masculine energy, they need specific instructions and explanations of what you need and why. Your clear expressions will create deeper love and admiration.
Mistake #3: Trying to change your partner He is what and who he is. It would be beneficial to understand his upbringing, his personality, his needs, beliefs and values instead of expecting him to fit into your idea of the man of your dreams. A relationship is all about adjusting to one another’s thinking and behavioural patterns.
Mistake #4: Bringing in past issues in an argument Using unnecessary details of the past to will make him feel even more miserable. Arguments should not be a win or lose game but help to express feelings of hurt or misunderstanding. They are part of life so learn to argue effectively.
Mistake #5: Wanting to control him Out of fear of being influenced by others, it’s natural to impose some rules and restrictions on your partner. Controlling him can shut him down and restricts your chances of intimacy. Instead, set some healthy boundaries for your loving relationship where you both have space for personal growth and fulfilment.
Mistake #6: Playing the blame game Whenever something goes wrong, we tend to blame our partners for not having empathy or not knowing any better. In reality, there is no right or wrong. It’s our different perceptions that cause us to behave differently. When things aren’t going to plan, have an open two-way discussion, hold each other accountable to take appropriate actions to rectify the issues.
Want to know a secret? Your Prince Charming is the very man you chose to build your life with. Apply the above 6 lessons and you’ll see the difference.
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